Life is tough.
Always giving us unanticipated obstacles that challenge us. These past few years have been extremely difficult personally. Lots of challenges and obstacles, stresses and fears coming to reality. I might have found something to help and wanted to share with you all.
I’ve learned recently just how important it is to really be true to yourself. How to embrace the days you get and how to make the most of each situation. You’re the only one that can truly build and live the life you want. The challenge we all face are either going to break you or change you for the better, its really your choice. As a parent to a young daughter I’ve been more compelled to truly dig deep and look for the good in every situation. Not everyday is a good day and not every moment is perfect or even close, however the main outlook on life is a greater picture. To really embrace that challenge and to make it better. To constantly be growing and be better, to really work on the things that aren’t great and try and fix that.
I’m a huge advocate for talking about mental health. Perhaps because I have dealt with either anxiety or depression my entire life on and off and I’ve at times felt very secluded and judged for it. Even recently I’ve had people make comments about it or react poorly to it. Its so disappointing that at this day and age we still feel like we must hide or not talk about bigger issues. I have a really hard time with people that are judgemental with any mental health issues, those people clearly don’t have compassion in their hearts to understand that mental health issues are not within our own control. I encourage you to talk about the “real” things in life to share those challenges and tough times with the ones you trust or just to be open in general. There is nothing worse than living in seclusion or suffering in silence, after all no help can come from keeping quiet.
I have an amazing therapist I see often and feel like it’s made such a difference in my daily life as well as my own personal health. I encourage you to reach out when you feel like you’re drowning. When you feel like everything around you might be too much to handle or when you feel like you might need help just getting out of a funk you might be in. Also living in B.C is tough, the rain we see through the winter months is challenging. Weeks upon weeks of rain and darkness is HARD. It’s not uncommon to suffer from SADS (Seasonal Affective Disorder) A mental depression that involves presentation of depressive symptoms only during a specific season of the year. This is a real thing and something that is very common with the change in weather, or time of year with how much darkness we have in the fall and winter months.
I have noticed personally the winter months being more difficult even on children and how they don’t have as much outside play time or sunny days to be free. It’s challenging to say the least, we turn to electronics to help in these times which probably hurts us in the end. I know too much screen time in my home can cause more of a mood fluctuation and can make the days more challenging. As easy as it is to toss on a movie its just as easy to put a raincoat on and just get wet outside. The challenge is staying busy and motivated in such a dark time of year.
This year I decided to make a bucket list which will help keep me motivated in parenting and in my daily life on those cold and rainy days and I thought maybe I would make this something that is a new tradition every season. I figured I would share it with you and hope that you also feel encouraged to check off the list and get out of that rut you may be in or maybe just do something different that you maybe haven’t thought of yourself.
Have fun with it.