We all have a challenge with balancing daily life and adding children to the mix only makes it more complicated.
We want to be present in our children’s lives, we want them to live a joyful, fulfilled life. We want them to learn, grow and have amazing memories and traditions. Finding the right balance is tough, it’s a challenge for sure. However, children are simple. They don’t care about having the most expensive toys, the trendiest clothes or riding in a brand-new vehicle. They just want love and attention.
Unfortunately, in our day and age, social media consumes a lot of our life. Everyone is posting the newest and coolest items to have and if you’re anything like me it’s hard to compare yourself and to separate yourself from doing so. We all love to have new things and I’m no exception however the “need” and “want” is what makes it different. Not many people I know “need” anything more than they already have. Kids have way too many toys, electronics, clothes, etc. and we are wondering why they don’t respond to us as much.
As a child the best memories I have don’t include possessions at all. They are spending time at the river tossing rocks, playing in the fields, playing hide and seek in the hay bales, the trampoline and bike rides. They are the simple things. Using my childhood as an example for raising my own daughter has me challenged and inspires me. I don’t want her to not have those memories I had as a young child. I want her to remember the walks we went on, the picnics we had as a family, baking and cooking together, painting or crafting. It is in my best interest to not have the tv on all day, to have music on instead and be more present. To have even something small each day we do together, not distracted and just living in the moment. The pressure as a mother is unlike anything else, it’s scary, stressful even. You’re in charge, and responsible for this human life you are raising and that’s a lot of pressure. I don’t know any other job with that type of responsibility.
We need to lead by example. When I’m tired or didn’t sleep as good, flicking on the TV is just the easiest solution, however lately embracing slow mornings and laying in bed and talking to my sweet girl about the dreams she had that night or what she wants to be when she is older are the moments my heart feels full. They are the memories I will hang onto when I’m old, the memories I will hopefully share with my grandchildren. Motherhood isn’t full of flashy and expensive things, it’s the moments.
The unconditional love.
It’s something to celebrate and not put pressure on because we all do the best we can with what we have. Try not to let social media or society convince you of anything different. We all have a life to live and that is going to look different to each person. Figure out what is most important to you and chase that, embrace it and live it. Remember that no mother is perfect and each one of us has struggles, trials and outbursts but embracing what’s truly important will make your life that much easier.
Be the best you and you will never fail. Continue to grow and challenge yourself as a mother and you’ll probably surprise yourself with doing so. Remember that your children always see you in a different light than you see yourself and the most important thing to remember is those children just need your love and time. Two things that cost nothing at all, so any of us can make that a reality quite easily. Hug your children tighter today and tell them you love them an extra time and you’re already doing more than yesterday.