I am going to just come right out and be super honest I love buying things.
The shopping part is my absolute favourite. It’s the hunt, the thrill, the clean and new. The acquiring more and more items is where you lose me. Over the past few years we have significantly decreased our possessions to live a more simple, minimal lifestyle and to be completely honest with you it wasn’t that hard of an adjustment.
My Pinterest boards are full of amazing ideas and things to purchase. However, it usually just sits there as a place to look and gather inspiration from or admire. These boards just sit there while I actually ask myself would these “things” make me happier? Would they fill a void? Would they make me feel or look better? Why would I even need more stuff?
When I sit down and think about it, I don’t. Those pretty things I love and admire are beautiful, expensive at times and yes some are super cute and trendy, but I don’t NEED them. They are just items, replaceable items at that. Instead of purchasing those cute shoes just because I love them, I tell myself that everything could be gone tomorrow. Could I live without that item or pair of shoes I really must have, the answer is 99% of the time of course I can live without them.
Don’t get me wrong I do still spend money shopping or purchasing things I probably don’t “NEED” however I am still human and the difference now than before is I think before I purchase. I evaluate the situation and weigh out pros, cons and talk to myself and ask “Could I live without this item or not? ” I’m still human so I do often find myself trying to justify it all, telling myself I don’t get my hair done, I do it myself so I’m saving money there, I don’t get my nails done, I do them myself as well. I am not a huge makeup person so savings there. All of this trying to justify my spending in my head.
Our minds are constantly second guessing ourselves, we are constantly comparing ourselves to each other and its exhausting. Stopping that voice in your head telling you all those things or trying to convince you that you “NEED” that stuff. It takes a conscious effort to silence the outside voices shouting at you about the newest product. The voice telling you that you aren’t whole or happy until you have that one more thing is crap. Stop listening to it, it’s not true.
Recently, I have learned how to try and be more thankful for just what I have and although I am nowhere near perfect and never will be. I have gained some major knowledge along the way that I feel inclined to share with you in hopes that you may to also find a bit of freedom and strength.
STOP. Take a deep breath and don’t allow yourself to run away. This item you are considering, even if it is amazing, it’s not going to bring you ultimate joy and happiness. What is it going to bring you? This is the moment you step back from the ledge, see it for what it really is, and what it means to you. Be fully honest.
Don’t avoid answering this question even if it’s hard to answer. Why do you want it? Is this item going to bring you more joy and happiness in your life? Is it so you can feel better about yourself? Is it so you appear differently to others around you? Or is it something that actually makes your life easier?
Before you run out to buy this item just take a quick look at what you already have. You might even surprise yourself in what you end up finding, and something you already have might work out.
Remember that anything you buy will only bring temporary happiness. Remembering what your grateful for and already have. Sit down and write down what makes you most happy, the most fulfilled you might actually surprise yourself.
Design a life with more of what you love, less of what you don’t.
It’s a process, but you can do it and it’s so worth it in the end!